My Self
Your Life is waiting for you to live it
You have a big heart and you’re generous to those close to you. You genuinely want to see other people happy and that’s a great quality to have. Giving from a part of your Self that is fulfilled, is easy and effortless but giving when your heart’s not in it is draining and creates resistance.
You want your actions and behaviours to reflect who you’re truly meant to be. You’re meant to live your purpose and you know you’re being called to it. You’re ready to make this shift and you know that it’s time to get real with your Self.
Intentional living is life-giving, it’s not selfish and it will always be anchored with your Self. I’m here to help you tap into your true Self and create a life so full that it gives back.
About Me
I love helping women change their mindsets to change their lives. I am an intuitive and compassionate healer with a passion for deep transformational conversations.
So how can I help you? I know how to help you uncover your vision, tap into your true identity and begin to take inspired action steps towards creating a life anchored in your Self.
I am a Certified Professional Coach and I received my certification through Erickson Coaching International. I am trained to provide you with solution-focused coaching that fully supports you on your transformational journey. Together we will co-create, not only through conversation but with the use of proven tools and processes that will help you shift in powerful ways and finally take inspired actions to cultivate a fulfilled life.
How did I get here?
My name is Melissa and I am a recovering People Pleaser.
One of my biggest struggles in life was taking other people’s beliefs about me and making them my own. The way people saw me, became my identity. I learned to act and behave according to their values and view of me. I was a people pleaser and felt validated when I made others happy. I said “Yes” to everything they wanted and I was good at living up to expectations. As I got older, I took action only when I got someone else’s approval to do so. The college I went to, the job I got, the friendships I had, even the relationships I was in. If I got approval from someone else or if it was someone else’s idea, only then did I feel like I was good enough.
So if I was living up to expectations,( yay me!) why did I feel awful inside?
What I didn’t know at the time, the reason I felt awful, was because I had no connection to my inner Self. I had no boundaries, no identity and I was constantly giving my power away. As I got older, I watched my “validators” move on with their lives without me. They didn’t need me to do what was best for them. But I needed them. I felt abandoned, lost and lonely. The life I thought was my own, wasn’t mine at all. The vision was outside of me and it would never be attainable.
To make matters worse, I fell into a deep depression. I was in a constant state of comparing myself to others which led to major self-loathing and self-sabotage. I was making poor choices and looking for love and worth in all the wrong places. I felt like I was in a bad dream that I would never wake up from. I wanted more from my life but I couldn’t articulate what that more was or what it was supposed to look like. When I did find the courage to share my express my dreams and goals, my “validators” would talk me out of it, convince me that it’s not the right choice and I’d be filled with fear and doubt. Changing my Self, meant disrupting the perceptions and the relationships they had with me which was out of the question. They wanted me to stay the same, but deep down I knew that staying the same meant that I no longer want to live with my Self.
I didn’t feel like my life was worth living…because it was not my life after all
I realized that I needed some professional help from a therapist. I learned I was giving so much to make others happy because I wanted to perceived as good, worthy and lovable. I completely neglected my needs and desires. For the first time in my life, I was able to express my Self. Slowly, I started to reconnect with my Self and discover that my life did have meaning and purpose. It was time to accept that I needed to do the inner work first and always. Showing up for my Self was the most important thing that needed to happen and I’m so glad I did.
Where i am today
I’m ready to start a new chapter in my life and I want to share my light with others
One day, during a guided meditation and I was invited to ask a simple question “How can I serve?” and listen for the first answer that came to mind. I closed my eyes, asked the question and listened. “Coaching”, my inner voice said and I felt my heart fill with up with excitement. For the first time in my life, I wanted to do something that took action the next day. Knowing nothing about coaching I sought out a program that resonated with me. Through my training and working with other amazing coaches, I started to build my confidence as I learned more about my Self, my values, identity and found a judgment-free space that helped me express my truth.
Coaching helped me give meaning back to my life. It helped me start a new chapter
I’m here now, because I was scared, stuck and depressed but found the courage to start all over and say YES to my Self! I’m here to help other women do the same.
Beyond my Self.
My Mission
To help you connect with your Self, to shine your light and live a life that gives back.
My Vision
Raise the collective vibration of this world.